In this era of fast paced life and cut throat competition, where everything is screaming for attention; privacy, has become a myth. There are many like me who prefer to keep some things private, secluded from the outside world. This seclusion is not out of some superficial fear or abandonment but rather to fulfil the inner spirit. One might not always crave for attention and hence enjoy the bliss of having a secret relationship. And trust me, that’s nothing to be spiteful of.
But things aren’t always as easy as it seems. Having a secret relationship does need a few miles of effort but yes, it’s definitely worth it. You may have one for myriad reasons; but keeping one alive and thriving is something you should strive for.
So, if you’re one of those lucky souls who have managed to find yourself a partner and want to hold her close to you in all secrecy, you’ve clicked on the right links. Here, I’ve given you 7 golden rules or rather tips which you must follow if you want a successful secret relationship with your lovely lover.
1. Don’t post on social media
I can’t stress this enough.
Unless you’re hyperbolically stupid, you won’t post pics together. Especially in any couple-ish poses or apparel matching attires. In this generation, every bit of information is stored forever and once you post something online, it spreads like wildfire! You wouldn’t want to arouse any dime of suspicion, hence stay away from all sorts of social platforms.
2. No PDA (Public Display of Affection)
Don’t you ever fantasize of holding her or stealing a kiss on the cheeks when you’re all out in public. You may be in any god forsaken location or a super secret pub in central London but don’t try to pull off any PDA. You never know, who catches a glimpse of you and gossips it out the following day at the tea table. Act like the mature adults you two are.
3. Be wary of your communications
Most secret relationships get spilled out because some sneaky family member went through the other person’s phone or computer.
Be careful how you communicate with your lover. If it’s through the phone, always delete all sorts of emails, text messages and call log details as soon as you can. If it is through a computer, use incognito browsing to access mails.
An alternative to this is to get yourself another phone but it isn’t always easy to manage two phones the same time so there’s that. What you can do is make an alternate email or use a mirrored messaging platform with a fake name to communicate with your lover.
4. Try to send gifts to keep the relationship interesting but be wary of not leaving any breadcrumbs!
Not meeting your lover for long durations to maintain discretion can be stressful. To avoid this, introduce some elements of surprise every now and then. Send them a bouquet of flowers or a small gift reminding them that they were in your mind with a cute message (could be something which only you two will understand! This will add in that extra spice and a smile on her face). But be careful, so that someone else can’t trace the gift back to you. For this, you can use the premium secret gifting services like Tatemae, they’re a bunch of passionate souls who relate to our passion for love and bear an expertise in just this.
5. Use separate credit cards
Whenever you use any service related to your significant other, try to be as discreet as possible. Use a different card for anything related to them; be it a visit to the massage parlour or buying a bar of chocolate. You can’t ever be very sure because you never know who is following your back!
6. If someone catches you off guard or asks you, be honest.
Yes, that’s the thumb rule. If someone asks you about this secret fling of yours, most probably that person has been following your antics for days and has already smelt this foul play. Be honest and confess your affair. Tell them about how you feel and why you chose to be discreet.
Why? Because if you mumble out a lie, chances are they won’t fall for it and ask someone else about the same and soon enough everyone will be suspecting you with a tinted grin and it will come out dirty in the public. So, gain their trust and confess. But make sure to keep that person in your hold and request them to be tight lipped about it!
7. Stay true to your partner.
Last but not the least, don’t hide anything from your already-hidden partner. You must communicate yourself properly to her and don’t blur out on any facts, especially on who knows what, if you’ve mutuals. There might be days when you see your mutual Karen smiling at you coily, tell your partner about it, because chances are, she’s suspecting something fishy and might soon spill the beans. Be true to her and trust me, you’ll be rewarded.
After these 7 golden tips, I’m sure you will do good with this naughty secret of yours. I’d just love to wrap up by saying, trust yourself and your gut. At the end of the day, it is you who is in love so don’t let the world tell you what is right and what isn’t.
Fall in love, be in love because after all that’s what we live for!